By Eric King-
Absent fathers must always be made to pay their dues and not escape those basic duties.
Once a relationship in which a child has been born is over, too many men think they can now leg it. They disappear into another relationship and often completely abandon their blood child.
A doomed relationship is often the convenient excuse for doing their son or daughter when in fact it is a stupid reason. Your child is your child, you can’t change that. However, the disputes and bitterness that accompanies a relationship very easily extend to the innocent child.
A child who never asked to be born , but whose existence was determined by one or two irresponsible parents who cannot prioritize the interest of he child. Once their dispute has done the full course, the child becomes the weapon of war.
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Things get worse for such children once one of heir parents has moved into a different relationship. Lots of new partners with lovers who have children from other relationships prefer them to forget their past relationship and all that comes with it.
CONFRONTATION
The eye of media.com has been confronting some of those fathers since last December, compelling them to give Christmas presents to their kids or face the full force of embarrassment that the eye of media.com brings to those who avoid their responsibilities.
CRUEL
The expectation is cruel and selfish, but very suitable to those who are scared that an old relationship may be rekindled through a reconnection with an old flame.
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GIFTS
The eye of media.com confronted two fathers on Easter Sunday and bank holiday Monday. Neither had given their children gifts or presents for over five years, but both agreed to make an immediate contribution to their children’s lives, including birthday and Christmas presents.
One of the mothers raised an extra issue that she wants her son’s father attending parents evenings too. ” she has a boyfriend, why can’t he attend parent’ s evening , why must I go to his parent’ s evening ?”, the father, who we won’t name asked.
The stepfather of the child in question works late, and doesn’t get time to attend parents evening. ” I don’t even get to attend my own child’s parents evening, why should I be under pressure to attend his(step son) parent’s evening?
“He is very rude and tells me I am not his real father . How can I go out of my way for a child like that” ?
The mother of this child says the absence of his real father affects his behaviour , claiming his behaviour would be better if his real father showed a bit more care for him.
INTERVENE
The eye of media.com had agreed to intervene in these two families, by keeping regular touch with them and offering assistance and guidance. One objection the new partner of the absentee father has with the idea of her man attending parents evening is that she doesn’t think it will be right for the man to attend with the mother of his child.
” They are split up years now, why should they attend parent’ s evening like happy families when the reality is that they are over “?
Our recommendation is that the father can sometimes attend on his own without the mother. The issue of two split parents attending parents evening together should not prevent absentee fathers from attending.
ROLE
Each parent should play a full role in the development of their child, even when they have moved on to new relationships. That’s the natural price that comes with having a child; there should be no
escaping this.
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